Do you ever wake up in the morning and just dread going to work? Does it seam impossible to get up, get dressed and be a functioning member of your workforce team? I feel this, often. It is probably because of my issues with depression […]
Every year when my kids birthdays come around i would get totally stressed out! I am somehow now expected to pull an amazing party out of thin air that will undoubtedly top last years extravaganza! I’m done feeling like a second rate mom because i don’t want to keep up with the party planner moms. I have no hard feelings for the moms that can pull it off, the moms that love the planning and the creativity that comes with putting a party together. Good for you but I cant do it anymore, i’m done. I am through stressing over decorations, and grab bags, and having just the right invitations. I do want my kids to have great birthdays but not at the expense of my sanity!
My son will not remember his 4th birthday when mom went all out for his dinosaur party. I spent hours, no days, making crazy good dinosaur themed food, designing super cute little signs for all the fun games and food, I got a dinosaur shaped pinata, made adorable decorations and fun things for the kids to take home and spent way to much money on all the useless crap that no one remembers. Did my kid have fun? Of course he did! He got presents and cake. Did all the other kids have fun? Of course. But what did mom get? stressed! That’s what I got.
I am so done going all out crazy for every birthday party!
So instead of another birthday that stresses me out we went super simple the past two years. My sons birthday is at the end of August so that just screams pool party. So easy, so much fun and so good for mom’s sanity.
Last year his 5th birthday was at a local fun center that has a water park attached to it. We ended up spending so much less money on this party than the years before. We got entrance tickets to the water park for 15 people, 3 large pizzas, and drinks all for less then what i spent on all the food and prep for the last years party.
The best part is that someone else did all the work for me. Someone else set up our party area, someone else cooked the pizza, someone else was in charge of clean up!!!
I was actually able to enjoy my sons birthday for once. I was able to go down water slides with him and just enjoy his excitement of his first trip to a water park instead of making sure everything was going according to plan. It was nice to be able to just sit in the kiddy pool area and watch all the kids playing on the little slides and enjoying the water while the parents enjoyed a moment to sit and relax and just be present.
I can now get back to the real meaning of his birthday. Celebrating him!
You know what the best part of a simpler birthday is? This year my son asked to have another pool party birthday, complete with friends and pizza, just like last year! *sigh* Finally they get it too! Simple parties are so much more fun! I am looking forward to more simple birthday parties in the future.
This amazing epiphany to not go all out for every party was amazing. I am no longer freaking out with it only being 2 weeks until my sons 6th birthday. Instead the only things i’m worrying about is what kind of pizza he wants and if he wants cupcakes, cake or brownies for his desert. I love this!
Now don’t get me wrong, I have a few epic parties up my sleeve planned.
My daughter turns 11 in January and you only get your Hogwarts Letter once! I have been planning that one for a year now and still have things to get together. I am not saying to never go all out for your kids parties, what I am saying is that some times it is totally okay to embrace the simple life in order to keep your sanity.
Do you go all out for birthdays every year or do you like to keep it simple? Let me know what you do in the comments.
Why am I blogging?
What does it mean to find your dream job? i feel like that is different for everyone. someones dream job could be sitting at a cubical staring at a screen all day while the next persons dream could be walking the runway at New York Fashion Week with everyones eyes on them. For me, my dream job would consist of three things
- Letting me live comfortably without unneeded stress
- being able to feel fulfilled and like my work mattered
- being able to spend quality time with my kids and be a part of their life
Do i have any of those things at my current job? Sadly no.
I have been struggling to find a something that i enjoy doing, something that lets me be creative and also one that feeds into my love of teaching. I have tried many things. For a year i was a Preschool teacher at a daycare, i got to be creative and i got to teach and i loved the kids, but the job sucked. I have taught families through the Strengthening Families Program twice and enjoyed myself and it was very rewarding but it lacked the creative aspect because all the curriculum was already laid out for me and i had to fallow that curriculum to a T.
For a long time i didn’t think i would find anything that would truly make me happy and check all my little boxes for the perfect career. So here i sit, working a mid level management position (glorified babysitter) of a big box company, and i’m depressed. I feel like all i do is get up, go to work, come home, try not to fall asleep on the couch, make dinner and go to bed just to have to get up and do it all again the next day.
My DREAM job
One day i was feeling quite depressed while at work. I was waiting for more customers to come in that would need my help, so while it was slow i started to wright down what i thought i needed to do to find that career that would make me happy. I wanted to have everything in writing so i could have something tangible to focus on. On my scratch piece of paper i wrote;
Now i realize this is pretty much the perfect career without actually naming any specific career. I wanted a 9-5 Monday – Friday job that would pay me to paint, cook yummy food and be more present in my kids lives. Not to much to ask for right?
Wrong! That unicorn is pretty hard to catch and i have been hunting for a long time!
Life is hard ya’ll
Being a 31 year old woman who doesn’t know what she wants to be when she grows up is hard. Having that feeling that you should be further along in life and have more to show for it then the crap pile you do have is hard. Not knowing what to do next to get out of it is hard. Having gone to school, gotten in debt, and graduated but only having the knowledge and pictures to show for it is hard. Life is hard. Realizing that i can do this, that i can make a difference in my own life and the life of my family is hard. I will do this! I will make that difference and i will make it now!
Lets Help Each other achieve our dream
If i apply myself i can get my shit together, I can be the mom i want to be and have the life i want. I have great information and ideas that i hope will help myself and other struggling moms to get their life together and be the best, most fulfilled person they can be. I encourage you to fallow me in my journey, take some notes, laugh with me when times get tough and together we can enjoy our life in progress.